I have some concerns about contact with birth families. Is contact necessary? Adopted children need to know and understand their history to help them to develop a sense of identity and integrate the past with the present. Most children need to maintain some form of contact with significant people from their past. This could be with brothers and sisters placed elsewhere, birth relatives or foster carers. Face to face contact with birth parents is rare. Generally contact with birth parents is via a letterbox exchange, at least once a year, managed by Adoption Focus and the Local Authority from which the child has been placed. This process does not reveal addresses. The importance of contact and ways of managing it are fully explained during the preparation process and agreed when a placement is being arranged. For more information, First 4 Adoption has a comprehensive section on contact in adoption here.